Boundaries
What is your “Yes” and your “No”?
Horses are masters at expressing and respecting boundaries.
They let others know what feels okay and what doesn’t. They can say “no” with their body such as pinning their ears back, or stamping their foot. They can say “yes” by remaining in a calm state, or offering an “out breath” to release tension.
They are also aware of what other horses are feeling and communicating. If another horse gets too close or does something they don’t like, they respond to keep themselves safe. This might mean walking away or creating space. Horses don’t hold onto anger or resentment if another horse says “no” - they simply respect the boundary and move on.
By observing horses we can learn how to notice our own “yes” and “no” boundaries, and how to respect other people’s boundaries too.
You are in charge of your own boundaries
What feels okay for you, and what does not feel okay is up for you to decide, and okay for you to communicate and change your mind.
Your body sensations and your emotions can help you notice this. Sometimes you might feel calm and comfortable - this can be a “yes.”
Sometimes you might notice tension in your body and feeling unsure or uncomfortable - that can be a “no.”
Boundaries are important
Boundaries help to keep us safe.
They also help us to have healthy and kind relationships with others. When you know your boundaries you can:
say what you need
respect other people’s needs too
feel more confident in yourself.
